Anger Management Solutions

Like adults and kids, teens can experience anger too. Let's face it a teenager is going through some heavy-duty physical changes and the hormones that are bouncing around inside a teen's body can create mood-swings, and emotional outbursts that can even surprise them when they happen. Experiencing the emotion anger is a natural occurrence. What we chose to do to express our anger is our choice. The choices we make about how we express our anger is called Anger Management. A teen has many tools available to them in which to manage their anger.

Tools

Anger Management Tools are what a teen can use to channel or funnel their emotions so that they can express themselves without causing injury to themselves, others or property. The challenge for the teen is knowing they have these tools and learning how to use them.

Tool #1 - Self Control

Most teens have been using this tool since they were a kid. They use this tool in conversation all the time. They know that if they tell their mom that the meatloaf tastes like dog food, she will likely not let him have desert, so instead he uses some self control and instead says, "it's ok mom, but I'll pass on the seconds because your cake sure smells great". This isn't a lie; you are just controlling the urge to blast her with a better description to save her feeling and your desert! Now as a teen when you feel yourself becoming angry, like when your face gets to feeling all warm and you just know that your face is turning all shades of red and you find yourself clenching your fists you can fall back on self control to diffuse the situation. You can step back and give yourself time to gain control over your words and actions. Words and actions that will be less likely to land you in hot water.

Tool #2 - Know Yourself

Take a good look at past scrapes you may have got yourself into and examine why you became angry. Knowing what things set you off can be a guide to knowing what things to avoid the next time. There is no shame in knowing what situations and persons are most likely to anger you and then plan to avoid them. In fact avoidance is a very smart strategy. If avoidance is not possible than knowing other things about you can be used to diffuse situations too. You may find out that you are pretty good at vocabulary and perhaps using words that a bully does not know can give you the time to walk away from a situation.

Tool #3 - Controlling The Damage

When faced with a situation you know will anger you, stopping to take an assessment of what can happen if you say or do a particular thing can help you to choose the option that will bring about the least amount of damage. Your first choice would be to avoid or walk away from a situation. Let's face it; some situations are unavoidable. In this case, you want to walk out of the situation with as little damage as possible to yourself, to others and to any property that may be around. Taking stock of the situation and thinking of the solution that creates the most amount of benefit while causing the least amount of damage is called: damage control.

Did You Know This About Anger Management Management Strategies and Tips for Controlling Anger We've all heard the old adage: Count to ten and let your anger cool. This works for small outburst of anger or when you feel it bubble up inside of you. Walking away from confrontations or situations that you suspect may cause you to become angry Avoid all together situations that have in the past caused you to become angry, if at all possible Biting your tongue - I would not advise this one, it could be painful. The meaning behind the phrase, though is to think before you speak...

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